Talking About Eating Disorders When They Are A Touchy Subject

Eating disorders are unfortunately quite common and difficult to talk about. Eating disorders can affect anyone, regardless of their age, gender, or background, despite the stereotype that they mostly affect young women. They often stem from complex physical, emotional, and psychological factors.

For many people, eating disorders can be difficult to talk about, and approaching the subject can be a delicate matter. It’s important to tread carefully to avoid triggering and offensive language that can actually make the issue worse.

However, it’s essential to discuss eating disorders with your loved ones, because early diagnosis and intervention can significantly improve a person’s chances of recovery.

Start by educating yourself

The first step in discussing eating disorders is to learn about the different types of disorders, their causes, and their unique symptoms. There are several types of eating disorders including anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, binge eating disorder, and others. Each disorder has its own particular symptoms and causes.

Before talking to a loved one about eating disorders, it’s crucial to understand these differences to avoid making generalizations or assumptions. You should also be prepared to discuss the evidence behind successful treatment options.

Educating yourself about eating disorders can also help you understand the challenges that people suffering with these disorders face and the best ways to support them.

Give them a safe space

Eating disorders can be incredibly isolating, and people with these disorders most likely feel shame, guilt, and embarrassment. Because of this shame, it’s crucial to approach the subject with empathy and understanding.

You can start by expressing your concern and acknowledging their struggles. Let them know that you are there to support them and that you understand how difficult it can be to talk about such a sensitive subject. It’s also important to avoid judgment or criticism, as this can further worsen the person’s negative feelings.

Choose a place to talk that isn’t a public place or is involved with food, such as a family dinner. Their heightened stress at mealtimes isn’t a safe place for them to open up about their struggles.

Actively listen to them

One of the most powerful ways to support someone with an eating disorder is to listen to them without judgment. Those with eating disorders often feel like their thoughts and feelings are invalid, and they may struggle to express themselves. Therefore, it is crucial to listen to them without interrupting or making assumptions.

Show that you’re actively listening by making eye contact, nodding, and asking open-ended questions. Avoid giving advice or solutions because this can come across as dismissive or patronizing.

Avoid triggering language

Try to avoid triggering topics or behaviors that could exacerbate the person’s disorder. This includes discussing food, body image, weight, or exercise. Don’t make comments about their body or appearance.

You should also use appropriate language that’s respectful and avoids stigmatizing the person or their disorder. For example, using phrases like “she’s anorexic” or “he’s bulimic” can label the person and create a negative stigma around their disorder. Instead, use person-first language such as “she has anorexia” or “he is living with bulimia.” This approach highlights their humanity rather than reducing them to their disorder.

Encourage them to seek help

Even after you’ve done everything to support them, if a loved one is suffering from an eating disorder, they need professional help. Give them the resources to reach out to a therapist or a medical professional. Let them know you’ll be there for them as they start their journey to recovery.

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