Being Part of a Couple With Different Political Viewpoints

Politics today are more divided than ever. In this politically charged atmosphere, it’s common for couples to find themselves on opposite sides of the spectrum.

These differences can often feel insurmountable. They may fuel arguments, create tension, and even threaten the foundation of your relationship. However, differing political views don’t have to spell doom for a partnership. Here are several strategies to help couples cope with differing political views.

Focus on Common Values

You fell in love with your partner because they shared things in common with you. Most likely, you both still deeply care about love, family, morality, and kindness. Even though your political views differ, you still have these commonalities to hold on to. When political topics come up, try to steer the conversation toward these shared values. This approach can help both of you realize that despite your political differences, you remain united in your fundamental beliefs, goals for your relationship, and vision for your life together.

Practice Active Listening

Active listening involves truly hearing what your partner is saying without planning your response while they speak. Even though it might feel frustrating, work on actively listening to your partner’s political perspective. Reflect on what your partner says by summarizing their points and acknowledging their feelings. This practice not only helps clarify their position but also demonstrates that you respect their viewpoint. Showing this basic respect can help prevent arguments from becoming too heated.

Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries around political discussions can help both partners’ mental health. You won’t get into frequent arguments and they won’t escalate as often when you take certain topics off the table. Agree on specific times to discuss politics and times when the topic is off-limits. For example, you might decide that political talk is not allowed during meals or family gatherings. Boundaries can help ensure that your political differences don’t overshadow your relationship. It’s also important to respect each other’s need for space when emotions run high. Taking a break from the conversation can give you time to cool down.

Agree to Disagree

It’s unrealistic to expect that you and your partner will see eye to eye on every political issue. Learning to agree to disagree is a valuable skill. Accept that it’s okay to have different opinions and that these differences don’t diminish your love or respect for each other. This mindset can allow you to move past political disagreements without holding grudges.

Work on Empathizing

Cultivating empathy in your relationship means making a genuine effort to understand your partner’s political beliefs and the experiences that shaped them. You don’t have to agree with their views, but you should recognize their right to hold them. Empathy can turn political discussions from contentious debates into opportunities for better understanding one another.

Engage in Shared Activities

Continuing to do activities that you both enjoy can help mitigate the stress of your political differences. Look for things you both love to do and are passionate about. You might even return to the activities you used to do when you first began dating. Whether it’s simple things like cooking, hiking, or watching movies, spending quality time together reminds you of the reasons you fell in love.

Seek Couples Therapy

For some couples, the political divide is too big to cross alone. Consider enlisting the help of a couples therapist who can moderate your conversations. They’ll also give you strategies for setting boundaries around certain topics, how to communicate without escalating to anger, and where you can find common ground.

To find out more about how couples therapy can help couples bridge their political divides, please reach out to us.